Creeva on July 8th, 2008
This is a letter to my future child.
Dear Little One,
Though by the time you read this you will be old enough, hopefully, to comprehend it. Who knows you may even have brothers and sisters by this time. I’m writing this because I know that your mother and I will make mistakes. Contrary to what we may teach you we are just human and not super-human. We possess no special abilities beyond judgment that is tempered with wisdom that we have arrived at through age. We will screw you up. That is an unfortunate fact. Like your grandparents we will think about ways we can do things better with you then they did with us. It is highly likely that we, like them, will screw you up and make you less then perfect the same way they did it to us. The only thing you get to look forward to is when you screw up your own children by teaching them in ways that you perceive were the wrong ways to handle you.
We will always love you in an unconditional way. We may get angry at you, and I’m positive you will get angry at us. I hope it is not lasting. Our home will always be a home with a place for you in it and a place that you can come back to. If you sixty and I’m ninety-three you will always be welcome to live with me. Though expect me to drive you up the wall like I do to your mother sometimes. Your mother and I may fight, that’s because we are very strong in our ideals. You will learn that a lot of what your mother and I fight about is much different then other parents. This is because we are strange, please see the section where I said that we will screw you up and our parents screwed us up.
I write this to you now to give you something to read that is just for you and your siblings. An understanding in case I’m not perfect. A message if I’m not vocal enough in expressing my feelings. A hope that you can learn and grow from the things I write down and give you a moment in time to grasp across and to see if in the future you have the same feeling and problems as I do now. Not everything is time period specific, something transcend human time to give you an emotional connection with what you feel is important.
I blog about you so you will always have a sense of who I am. How I experienced things. What I believed in. It may not be the same as you feel in the future, but hopefully you will the struggles I overcame to get to the place you know me. I’m sure there will be many stories I tell you over the years that won’t be recorded. These hopefully you will be able to keep forever so you can have a piece of me with you always and something to pass down to your own children.
I can’t wait to meet you for the first time, to read to you, to cuddle with you. These are going to be the experiences I will cherish even when you have far outgrown them. I hope you gain the same in return from your own children. I will write you more in the coming future. See you in a few months.
Love,
Your Father
Creeva on July 8th, 2008
I can’t say I’m overwhelmed by congratulations about the pregnancy, but I wasn’t looking for that either. People slowly catch up and respond to information they’ve seen online that I’ve posted. It’s good it filters out and the modern way of disseminating information works much better then calling 100 people all day just to let them know. Heaven forbid the old days when you sent out snail mail to everyone to let them know.
Creeva on July 2nd, 2008
Remember to the old days? When you could launch a blog and just start writing? When you just hoped and prayed someone would come and read your stuff (ok I still do that). These days however it takes a bit more self promotion. I already managed to snag a domain name otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. However there are a few more things I need to secure until the blog is fully up an operational (then I can go take that Princess Leia - how does your precious Alderaan look now? - (too much?)).
I need to:
1. Set up a proper e-mail address
2. Setup a Twitter account
3. Setup the blogfeed to post to the twitter account
4. Setup a baby status twitter account so the short and sweet updates can be in one place for family and friends and not buried in my mindless tweets.
Then we can start the shameless self promotion of ourselves - is that shameful self promotion - ask my friends I say it’s former they tell me it’s the latter.
If you are reading this on Creeva.com then be warned you are only getting half of the story. I will be crossposting all of my own writing over to Creeva.com, but I won’t be taking any of the other blog authors stuff over. This means you are doing yourself a disservice by not going to Parent Phobia directly.
I would recommend subscribing to the Parent Phobia feed at first, then visiting the site regularly through the week. Once the Twitter account is up I would recommend adding that as a twitter contact.
As things get in place I will be posting regular updates and I highly recommend you get back to the main site and read Xie’s stuff she is going to post on Parent Phobia since I’ve read some of what she is working on and it’s truly great and personal writing.
If any readers have a suggestion of something else we can add please let us know - and no we are are not creating a myspace account for you to friend.
Creeva on July 2nd, 2008
Normally in the future I plan on posting all pregnancy and parenting stuff here first and move it over to my other blog. However with the announcement of the pregnancy I placed it on my home blog first.
Here is what I posted under the title “I’m Going to be a Father“:
In the picture above is my maternal grandfather and my great grandfather, it seems I am going to be joining on them on the ability to reproduce and pass down genetic material to the next generation. Yes I am going to be a father, Xie want and annouced the pregnancy on Twitter just a few hours ago with the following message:
As of yesterday I am 7 weeks pregnant - coming from the person who would never in a million years want kids, I am very excited & happy 
I sent the follow up:
@xielanthia congratulations who is the father……nm 
Then I sent this:
As of yesterday @xielanthia is 7 weeks pregnant and I’m going to be a father - wish us luck - we’ll need it.
So we have announced to the Web 2.0 World (WTW? W2W?) that we are having a baby and doing it in true web fashion. We have known for about 3 weeks and over that time eeked the information out to family and friends. The first person I told was the IPS guys I played SWG with that I have constant e-mail communication with. The first family that knew was my in-laws and followed by Xie’s grandmother (I wish she had a blog i could link to). Then it was ghoulishcharm. From there I told my father and my brother who was also there. I went and told my grandparents last Sunday and drove over to tell my sister, but she already knew it seems that she found out from my father who knew the week before.
I did find out from my sisters that my grandparents had already known about the pregnancy (having heard it through her) but yet they acted like they didn’t know anything. Welcome to my family, we can act surprise even if we have known something for months. I know I used to unwrap my Christmas presents before hand and rewrap them - I got that trick from my godmother.
Creeva on July 2nd, 2008
I always enjoy putting the first post on a new blog. Something about it being exciting and new. We don’t know for sure where this is going to go, but we hope to share our journey with you. Pregnancies and baby’s in general are a hard thing to go alone on. In this new web world we live in everything is shared, commented on, re-purposed, and passed around. Over the last couple years I’ve been living these thoughts in mind and trying to live with the ideal of saving as much information as possible. Parenthood and the trials and tribulations that go with it should be no different.
Life is a precious thing that shouldn’t be taken for granted. Parenting is another special thing. How do you raise your child properly? What do you do when X happens and you want to make sure Y is the outcome? How do you postpone the time period when your child hates you and wants nothing to do. How do you share these experiences with your child and make them an active part of what you are involved with? Everyone has an answers. In the grand scheme of things everyone also has some correct answers and some blatantly wrong ones. We are going to share with you what is happening and our thoughts and ideas.
I wont’ say we have the answers, since it’s more likely we will have questions. We will have opinions and thoughts and some answers, though they may not necessarily be the correct ones. I hope this blog does give you something to think about, comment on, and pass around though. Welcome to our journey and I’m happy to share it with you.
